A few years ago, I went to an OKYMA(Oklahoma Youth Ministers Association) luncheon and a youth pastor from Bellevue Baptist Church in Tennessee spoke on the consequences of immorality/cheating on our spouse encouraging us as youth pastors to always be on guard and protect our minds and hearts.
I am not for sure why today I am posting this other than a prompting of the Spirit–maybe there is someone out there struggling. This has been in my draft folder for some time. I have it on my wall in my office and have also given it to our pastors/elders. I pray that these possible consequences may challenge us to be so faithful to our spouses and to Jesus. Please read through these carefully. If you have considered or are considering being unfaithful to your spouse, please consider these consequences. They not only hurt you, but hurt your family, your church and your walk with the Lord. May this be of help to you and others.
A List of Anticipated Consequences of Adultery/Immorality
- Grieving my Lord; displeasing the One whose opinion most matters
- Dragging His sacred reputation in the mud
- Loss of reward and condemnation from God
- One day having to look Jesus, the Righteous Judge, in the face and give an account of my actions.
- Forcing God to discipline me in various ways.
- Following in the footsteps of men/women whose sin forfeited their families. List their names:
- Suffering of innocent people around me who would get hit by my shrapnel
- Inflicting untold hurt on my spouse.
- Losing my family’s respect and trust
- Hurting my children and nullifying future efforts to teach them to obey God.
- If my blindness should continue or my family would be unable to forgive me, perhaps losing my spouse and children forever.
- Causing shame to my family; the cruel comments of others who would invariably find out.
- Shame and hurt to my extended family
- Shame and hurt to my friends who know that I am a Christian
- Shame and hurt to my church family
- Forming memories and flashbacks that could plague future intimacy with my spouse.
- Creating a form of guilt awfully hard to shake. Even though God would forgive me, would I forgive myself?
- Disqualifying myself after having preached to others
- Surrender of the things I am called to do and love to do–teach and preach and write and minister to others. Forfeiting forever certain opportunities to serve God.
- Being haunted by my sin as I look in the eyes of others, and having it all dredged up again wherever I go and whatever I do.
- Laughter, rejoicing and blasphemous smugness by those who disrespect God and the church.
- Bringing great displeasure to Satan, the enemy of God and all that is good.
- Hurting my parents and my in-laws, and shaming their name.
- Undermining the faithful example and hard work of other Christians in our community “this is a hypocrite–who can take seriously anything he and his church have said and done?”
- Loss of self-respect, discrediting my own name, and invoking shame and lifelong embarrassment upon myself.
- Possibly bearing the physical consequences of disease, perhaps even infecting my spouse.
- Possibly causing pregnancy, with the personal and financial implications, including a lifelong reminder of my sin.
- Causing shame and hurt to my friends, especially those I’ve led to Christ and discipled.
These are only some of the consequences. If only we would rehearse in advance the ugly and overwhelming consequences of immorality, we would be far more prone to avoid it. May we live each day in the love and fear of God.